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That sounds cool! To clarify, I agree that we need to stop associating submissiveness with femininity. What I'm also trying to get at, though, is that the opposite of someone who is "dominant" is not necessarily someone who is "weak." Unfortunately, English-speaking culture places so much value in control and dominance that it's hard to even find words to describe other ways that one can have power in a relationship that don't have negative connotations attached to them. It's sort of like the difference between having power through force and having power through influence. For example, a parent can force her children to do their chores by shouting and hitting them until they're done, or a parent can influence her children to do their chores by promising them an allowance or threatening to take away their video games.