/I'm going to put in a slightly different point of view. Of COURSE Harry fails as a dad! Where had he ever seen a GOOD one to model himself after? Where would he have ever learned how to be a good one?/
That is a good point, and if I were inclined to be kind to JK I might even agree with you. Like its one thing to say that abused children perpetuate the cycle of abuse by growing up and becoming abusive adults, but on the other hand a lot of abused children don't grow up to do the same things that were done to them. Maybe the difference is that they recognised they had a messed up childhood etc and vowed/promised to do better - and Harry never really comes to that level of realisation imho.
Like he did see examples of bad parenting that were obviously bad parenting - couldn't he have just not done that??? Like the object lesson here is Sirius wanting Harry to be a mini-James, and in OOTP Hermione explained to Harry and the reader that that was what he was doing, so if he wanted to be a good parent, why is he doing the same thing except worse with less of an excuse. Like he wasn't in Azkaban being traumaised to have a loose distinction between the past and the present what is his excuse??? What is the excuse for trying to make your children into little workable models of your dead parents?? And then wanting to LARP their murder with your kids??
As for the favouristism, I don't think that's even addressed by the text as a problem. Lily and James are just background characters who don't really have much of a presence, and Albus' concern is not only that the blanket measures up poorly to the kids' other gifts (although it does) but that in and of itself mouldy blanket is a bad gift. Which it is.
/Harry's standard for 'all is well' is set incredibly low./ Lol its just "all is well for me personally" and thats about it it doesn't even encompass his kids let alone society.
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Date: 2016-08-23 10:26 pm (UTC)That is a good point, and if I were inclined to be kind to JK I might even agree with you. Like its one thing to say that abused children perpetuate the cycle of abuse by growing up and becoming abusive adults, but on the other hand a lot of abused children don't grow up to do the same things that were done to them. Maybe the difference is that they recognised they had a messed up childhood etc and vowed/promised to do better - and Harry never really comes to that level of realisation imho.
Like he did see examples of bad parenting that were obviously bad parenting - couldn't he have just not done that??? Like the object lesson here is Sirius wanting Harry to be a mini-James, and in OOTP Hermione explained to Harry and the reader that that was what he was doing, so if he wanted to be a good parent, why is he doing the same thing except worse with less of an excuse. Like he wasn't in Azkaban being traumaised to have a loose distinction between the past and the present what is his excuse??? What is the excuse for trying to make your children into little workable models of your dead parents?? And then wanting to LARP their murder with your kids??
As for the favouristism, I don't think that's even addressed by the text as a problem. Lily and James are just background characters who don't really have much of a presence, and Albus' concern is not only that the blanket measures up poorly to the kids' other gifts (although it does) but that in and of itself mouldy blanket is a bad gift. Which it is.
/Harry's standard for 'all is well' is set incredibly low./
Lol its just "all is well for me personally" and thats about it it doesn't even encompass his kids let alone society.